Monday, May 13, 2013
How to Pray for your Boyfriend
I believe in the power of prayer, and I think that praying for the people we love is so important, in our spiritual walk as well as those that we pray for. I feel so loved when someone prays for me, prays over me, or just shoots me a text or e-mail letting me know they are praying for me.
I've noticed that there are a lot of "How to Pray" guides. How to pray for your future husband, how to pray for your husband, etc. But something that is near to my heart is praying for my boyfriend. I want to talk to you girls who aren't quite single, but you aren't married either. You girls who are dating a man seriously, can see yourself marrying him someday, but just aren't to that season yet.
I pray for Ronnie often, and though the specifics I pray for him about differ depending on what is going on in His and our life, I have found that I mostly pray for his walk with the Lord, I pray for his leadership, I pray for his obedience, and I pray for him to stand against temptations of the world. I also pray that I would demonstrate Christ's love to Him, that I would offer him grace, and that I would display the fruits of the spirit to Him. I pray that He feels respected and honored as a man and the leader of our relationship.
If you are wondering how to pray for your boyfriend, I would recommend praying for these things:
1. Pray for your boyfriend's walk with the Lord. Pray that the Lord is pursuing His heart, that your boyfriend is staying close to His loving voice, pray that He is desiring growth in his relationship and pursues closeness with the Lord. Remember the the Bible tells us to not be unequally yoked, which means to not be on the same level spiritually as the person you are dating.
2. Pray for his leadership qualities. Although you may not be married yet, pray that the Lord is growing your boyfriend in this area. Christ said that the husband is the head of the wife, and therefore will lead your family. He should be your spiritual leader one day when you two are married, one who you trust and respect. Pray for him to lead you well, to follow Christ in wherever He may call you as a couple. Pray that he learns what it means to be a Godly leader before you two are married so he can lead you in the way Christ would desire when you are married.
3.Pray for obedience. Sometimes God asks us to do hard things. Sometimes God calls us into something we never planned for ourselves. I encourage you to pray for your boyfriend to have an obedient heart, to listen when God speaks, to move when God calls him to move. No matter what God asks of us, whether its big or small, pray that your boyfriend is willing to follow Christ first and foremost.
4.Pray for strength against temptations. Pray that he can be a man who doesn't fall for what the world says is okay, but for what God's word says. We live in a broken, fallen world where we are constantly tempted by sin. Jesus was tempted, although He never sinned. As humans, we aren't perfect, and we need to be praying for protection and a sound mind and heart against sin. Pray that your man lives a life to glorify and please Christ.
The way I pray for Ronnie has changed throughout our time we've been dating, as has the way we pray together as a couple. I want to encourage you if you don't pray for your boyfriend to try it out. You don't have to pray for him out loud in his presence, in fact, 9 times of out 10, I don't pray for Ronnie when I am actually with him. I typically pray for him at night before I go to bed, or in the mornings when I do my devotionals and quiet time.
You can tell your boyfriend you're praying for him if you want, and if you're comfortable, you can ask him how you can be praying for him. If you aren't comfortable sharing that yet, that is okay. God hears your prayers, and prayer changes more than just the person you are praying for. Try it out.
If you pray for your boyfriend, what do you pray for? If you're married or engaged, tell me about how your prayers have changed from when you were dating.